Chiquandra C. Cross



Have you heard of Kintsukuroi?

It is the Japanese practice of repairing what is broken by fusing it with pieces of silver, gold or platinum.  This is a wonderful metaphor for our lives.

Kintsorkouri vase

As a philosophy it speaks to breakage and repair becoming part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise.

This is us, God fills in our broken or weak spots with his glory and makes us better than we were before.

When he does the repair he leaves traces of himself to remind us of our deliverance.

Instead of seeing scars, we can focus on what was left behind after the repair.

While handcrafting us he envisioned his purpose for us and spoke it in and over us.

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.  Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you.   And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.  I will be found by you.

Jeremiah 29:11-13 reminds us of God’s plan for our lives.  He knew what he wanted us to be and to accomplish and worked his will into us.  For our benefit he added a life sustaining dose of grace and mercy into the mix.


Take Responsibility For The Energy You Exchange With Others



prah is one of the most recognized people in the world.  She is a person who has created a living legacy that literally has impacted millions.  I greatly admire her for all that she has endured to be who she is today and for all that she stands for.  She is a principled woman who speaks her mind and does what she wants to do when she wants to do it.  We also have several things in common, including the love of both books and tequila.  She is an awesome example of using your gift to touch the lives of others.



I  was a late rider on the  Oprah bandwagon, but now that I am on the wagon, I am all in. I love all things Oprah and I am a supporter of her network.  I am an OWNAmbassadorOWNer,  Super Soul Sunday’er and I am always ready for Life Class.

At least once a year I will watch her final episodeRandy Pausch’s Last Lecture, and Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford University commencement speech for spiritual grounding, enlightenment and encouragement.

Her final show was a moment in time that allowed the world to see directly into her heart and fully understand and embrace the 25 year run of The Oprah Show.  It was chock full of platinum nuggets of wisdom and as I watched it I felt connected to the  millions of others who were watching the show in that same moment.


The Weight of Words


T his image is a physical representation of the negative impact that words can have on the person they are directed at.

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When I saw this it startled me and I instantly felt a heaviness in my chest; it evokes sadness and fear and cautions me to be very gentle with myself and others. I am guilty of negative self talk.  One of my favorite authors, Brene Brown, says that we should speak to ourselves the same way we speak to others.  This is critical because if we extend care and concern to anyone during an emotional disturbance, it should be ourselves, first. Negative self talk is a destructive force that shouldn’t be taken lightly or ignored.  Those who suffer from chronic negative self talk need to be mindful of how and why it starts and what to do in order to get out of that funky headspace. Below are three steps to help should you ever encounter an emotional disturbance. (more…)

Weight Loss Tip: Lemon wedge and a stick of gum



hen I eat certain foods sometimes I will eat and eat and eat until the carton or package is empty.  It seems like the craving for whatever I was eating rages in my mouth until I consume it all.  I don’t know why it happens, but it happens a lot when I eat ice cream or other sugary foods.  I don’t know if I’m addicted to sugar or just being greedy (probably a bit of both) but I do know that even when I try not to go back for a second or third helping of some of my favorite snacks, i.e. ice cream I am not always successful.

lemon wedge




One day while trying not to go back for a second helping of sorbet I wondered about the cause of this behavior, I explored sugar addiction and quickly changed my mind about going in this direction.



Then I thought about what I was feeling in my mouth when the cravings persisted.

It felt like my taste buds were still “firing” or “begging” for more. I wondered if my taste buds would stop begging for more if I cleaned my mouth. I grabbed a lemon slice and squeezed it in my mouth. The tartness caused my mouth to water. I swallowed and squeezed the lemon wedge again and repeated the process a couple more times.


3rd Quarter Goals



T he first half of 2014 is in the history books and whatever happened, happened.  If you had successes, great, I hope you celebrated and documented.  If you didn’t that’s great too.  It’s great because you get a do over.


You have the next 90 days of your life to create a strategy for success.

I have three tips to help you start out on the right track. (more…)

How Bad Do You Want It


This week my friend and fellow 31 day blog challenge partner, Nikki, has been blogging about motivation week.  After reading several of her posts, I decided to share one of my favorite motivational videos.

I can’t remember the first time I watched Randy Pausch‘s Last Lecture, but I usually watch it along with two of my other favorite motivational videos at least three times a year.

Randy’s last lecture was funny, inspirational, compassionate and a love letter to his children.  He stood in front of a room filled beyond capacity to deliver it and for about an hour and fifteen minutes he held the audience captive.  The elephant in the room was that he was dying of pancreatic cancer, but to look at him it was hard to tell.  While on stage he did not exhibit the disposition or behavior of a dying man.  In fact, early in the video he does several push-ups to demonstrate his physical fitness.

During the lecture he talks about the obstacles that we are all bound to face.  He said,

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”


Return on Your Investment


As an entrepreneur I learned early in the game that it was necessary to spend money to make money.  I purchased books and participated in workshops, seminars and teleclasses.  I joined mastermind groups and several networking organizations and even started a mastermind group, all in an effort to perfect my craft and grow my business.  At the time I didn’t know anything about getting a return on my investment (ROI), I just wanted to make sure I knew as much as possible so that my business would be successful.

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At the beginning I looked for low or no cost opportunities to get my business off the ground and I quickly learned that no or low cost wasn’t enough.  I needed to go deeper.  I wanted to go deeper.  I wanted to be successful and in order to that I needed to open my wallet and bet on myself.  If I wanted to be successful I needed the maximum return on my investment in my number one commodity…myself.

Bootstrapping my business wasn’t ideal at the time, but I wouldn’t trade the experience for anything.


Integrity Breeds Opportunity


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A couple of years ago I had a friend refer a potential client to me for grant writing services.  I scheduled a meeting with the executive director and some of her staff and after asking a few questions I determined that they weren’t read to embark upon a grant campaign.  Their vision was too broad and though they were supported financially by their parent organization, they didn’t have enough history or constituents served to be competitive. We talked for a while longer and I stopped and asked to speak with the director alone.

Once we were alone I let her know that, in my opinion, they were too young and inexperienced to be competitive.