Chiquandra C. Cross

Relationships: If Anything Matters, Everything Matters.


“Since most of our hurts come through relationships,

so will our healing.”

~The Shack

I am currently re-reading one of my favorite books, The Shack, by William Paul Young.  As with any book I revisit, I am enjoying discovering new things. This time around the above quote jumped off the page and into my spirit.  It resonated with me because I was recently accused of lacking “unconditional love, grace and compassion, being selfish, haughty and bourgeois.”


On the surface I could have, and probably should have, been offended.  However, I believe offense is a choice so I prayed and asked God to reveal to me any applicable truth in what they were trying to convey.

I sat with the comments for a couple of days before responding.

First, I wanted to allow the sting of what was shared to dissipate so that any applicable truths could rise to the surface of my awareness.

Second, I wanted to give the Holy Spirit time to penetrate my defenses and reveal to me what I needed to receive, acknowledge and address.

Third, I wasn’t feeling well and it took me a couple of days to get it together.

One thing I kept thinking about is the Dr. Maya Angel quote:

 “When people show you who they are, believe them.”

This lesson has served me well in my life so of course I thought about it as I processed this experience.  Someone had just told me that that I’ve shown myself to them in a way that I feel contradicts who I am.  According to them I had shown myself to be selfish, arrogant and lacking in compassion, so it must be true, right?


Take Responsibility For The Energy You Exchange With Others



prah is one of the most recognized people in the world.  She is a person who has created a living legacy that literally has impacted millions.  I greatly admire her for all that she has endured to be who she is today and for all that she stands for.  She is a principled woman who speaks her mind and does what she wants to do when she wants to do it.  We also have several things in common, including the love of both books and tequila.  She is an awesome example of using your gift to touch the lives of others.



I  was a late rider on the  Oprah bandwagon, but now that I am on the wagon, I am all in. I love all things Oprah and I am a supporter of her network.  I am an OWNAmbassadorOWNer,  Super Soul Sunday’er and I am always ready for Life Class.

At least once a year I will watch her final episodeRandy Pausch’s Last Lecture, and Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford University commencement speech for spiritual grounding, enlightenment and encouragement.

Her final show was a moment in time that allowed the world to see directly into her heart and fully understand and embrace the 25 year run of The Oprah Show.  It was chock full of platinum nuggets of wisdom and as I watched it I felt connected to the  millions of others who were watching the show in that same moment.